What is a real woman?

There has been a lot of talk lately questioning what a ‘real woman’ is. No one can really seem to agree. As there are many different types of women there are as many different definitions of what a ‘real woman’ is. There has been a lot of ‘skinny shaming’ and talk about how a real woman has curves. Perhaps this is in retaliation of ‘fat shaming’ in the recent past? There is been a lot of bashing of models and Victoria’s Secret. While accepting her Trailblazers Award during the 2015 Glamour UK Woman of the Year ceremony in June 2015, Amy Schumer said “I’m probably like 160 pounds right now and I can catch a d— whenever I want.”

I had to look up who Amy Schumer is. It seems she is an American stand-up comedian, writer, producer and actress. Why she won the 2015 Glamour UK Woman of the Year award is beyond me. Seems like that should be held for women from the UK but what do I know? She placed fourth on the fifth season of NBC’s Last Comic Standing and she placed second on Comedy Central’s Reality Bites Back.

Amy Schumer glamour real woman

Well let me just say this. Of course it is easy for you to catch a d— whenever you want Amy. You have a vagina. That doesn’t mean anything special much less a ‘real woman’. Look I can tell you that all you basically have to do is show up. It doesn’t matter if you are 100 pounds or 160 pounds. It is easy for you. You are a female. There is this stigma in society, well, at least American society, where it is not acceptable for women to be with too many men sexually. It gives them the appearance of being a slut and being a slut lowers your marriage desirability level. Or at least that’s what society would lead us to believe. Personally I do not believe that to be true. I have never cared how many partners my partners have had and I think most men would agree. There are women who will say they have not been with a man for years blah blah blah. That is because of their own standards or morals. Don’t believe me? Come meet me in Las Vegas and I will take you out and get you ladies ‘hooked up’ in five minutes.

There is that old adage that if a man is with a lot of women then he is a stud but if a woman is with a lot of men then she is a slut. But the reality of it is that women enjoy sex as much as man so really what is the point of all of that?

Larissa Reis photo courtesy of http://larissareis.net/

Larissa Reis photo courtesy of http://larissareis.net/

Really what is a real woman after all? Is a real woman one who can tell a few jokes and weighs 160 pounds and has curves like they say in that movie Real Women Have Curves? Or is a real woman a 5 foot 100 pound ‘spinner‘? Is a real woman one who is super fit and athletic? Or is a real woman somewhere in between or somewhere extreme to either end? Who knows really? In fact there was a time in history where the well-to-dos would purposefully be plump to sort of flaunt their wealth. If you had money you could afford to eat more and thus be heavier. Some would say a real woman has large breasts to help feed a baby and broad hips to help with child birth. In fact, that is where the term ‘broad’ comes from.

I have read that Ursula Andress, the actress that played the original Bond Girl in the movie “Dr. No” and another actor were interviewed on the Merv Griffin show. The actor said what a great lady Ursula was because on a mutual friend’s funeral day Ursula was in the window’s kitchen washing dishes. Now that’s a real woman.

real women little women l.a.

Real women from the tv show Little Women L.A.

So what is a real woman? I can only answer for myself, using my own opinions. Amy Schumer aside, being a real woman has nothing to do with her body. If that were true then no woman who has had a mastectomy could be called a real woman and that is ridiculous. It has nothing to do with her sexual orientation. To me, a real woman meets the challenges of life head-on with dignity, grace and courage. A real woman seeks to understand the many lessons of life and strives to be the very best she can. She loves deeply, laughs often, learns from her mistakes while forgiving others of theirs. She does the best she can with what she has. She is passionate about what she believes in and builds and maintains her world accordingly. She knows who she is. She can take care of herself but lets her man (or partner) treat her like a lady. The friends of a real woman know they can count on her no matter what. Her family is the center of her life. There is a saying, “A real woman never lets her man leave the house hungry or horny.” She understands that she is not perfect. A real woman is caring, gentle and generous. She loves and respects those around her and herself. A real woman knows that it is her responsibility to create the life she desires and to nurture and encourage the ones around her to do the same.

If you have a real woman in your life you are truly blessed. If not, perhaps try this secret.

What is your definition of a real woman? Let me know in the comments.
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70 thoughts on “What is a real woman?

  1. Haha! man you just sparked some serious debate here. We will never ever understand them to be specific to me its just about their morals, character and their personality. The rest can be changed gradually. Whoever said a good woman is those slim fit models is just wrong according to me.

    • Of course. I could have written about ‘What makes a real man’, and maybe I will some day. Today we are talking about women and I guess since the population is something like 7 billion one could assume 1/2 are female so one could imagine 3.5 billion different personality types. LOL!
      Thanks for stopping by and for leaving your comment. I really appreciate it!
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  2. I think the idea of a real woman varies for each man ( or women). From a womans point of view, every woman is a real woman. Some are good, some are bitches. Fat, thin, tall, short, sweet, aggressive, black, white…. we are all women. Finding a man who works for us is a challenge. I am no longer the skinny thing I used to be, but I have no doubt I could find a guy in just a few minutes if I wanted to. Sex, yes, thats powerful. But for me, its always been the fact I am wild, I speak my mind, I’m willing to be a bit nuts and I have a sense of humor that tends to attract… not my body as much.

  3. what makes a real woman? i believe a woman is who she wants to be, not what we want her to be, follow your heart and be who you are.

  4. I resent the idea of “real” woman because it suggests that some aren’t. Who decides anyway? I am real because I am. Period.No explanation needed.Great article

  5. When it comes to finding a good woman, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” It has nothing to do with weightlifting for those of you guys who like muscle women. Your potential woman should share common beliefs with you. You may think you can do some missionary dating, and turn that situation around so she will believe everything you do, but you’re probably going to be very disappointed with some bad side effects. If you don’t share core beliefs….good luck.

  6. According to me, real woman is not just about the color or racism, but just a person with her own integrity and of good moral standards… any way what does it require to be a real woman?… a very challenging article view comments from different people and tell us their view.

    • Right. I agree. Which is why it upsets me when I seem people saying that the Victoria’s Secret models are not ‘real women’ because they are too skinny and ‘real women’ are not ‘Barbie dolls’.
      Uh yes, a skinny ‘Barbie doll’ female can indeed be a ‘real woman’ in my book.
      Thanks for popping by Juliana and for your comments. You rock!
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  7. Wow, so many people without avatars here… unless your blog isn’t accepting them. We’ll find out with my comment. lol

    Truthfully, I believe a real woman is defined by the person identifying themselves as a woman, plain and simple. Now, what society believes after that is a different matter, but in general terms who cares.

    I’ll equate it to the Rachel woman in Seattle who decided she sees herself as black. There wouldn’t have been any real problem with it if she hadn’t put it down on a job application, if she hadn’t sued a university years ago because she said they treated her differently because she was white, and because she got the position as the head of the Seattle NAACP by saying she was a strong black woman who advocated for the rights of minorities. Thus, in a strange twist of fate, she lied to get to where she is; that’s just wrong.

    That’s my comparison and I’ll stick to it. lol I’ve never even tried to identify what a real woman is; she is what she is and that’s it. lol
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  8. I sure have. I’ve mentioned it multiple times in posts (some of which you\’ve seen) and in many of those articles I’ve linked to how to do it; your site doesn’t allow links in comments (good policy by the way). It might be time to update that one, even though the process is still the same, since I wrote that original article back in 2008.
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  9. A real woman must respect herself and value her dignity thats when she will attract dignity and value around. She must be a good manager and have her own standards or values that she can’t break no matter what.

  10. Hey Troy,

    I applaud you for writing this and your definition of what a real woman is pretty much says it all my friend.

    It doesn’t matter what we look like or how big or small we may be. We are all individuals living our lives to the best of our ability which makes us all unique. It’s who you are as a person and how you treat others that I believe defines you. Anyone that has to put someone else down is just dealing with their own insecurities. I hope they work through those some day.

    Interesting post my friend and I did have the same question Mitch had. By the way, you can definitely whitelist bloggers and put whether or not you allow links for them or not. You do have the premium version which makes all that possible.

    Thanks Troy and enjoy your week.

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  11. A real woman can mean different things to different people. Breast size shouldn’t have anything to do with it. To me a real woman is someone who is thoughtful, doesn’t take any unwarranted lip and above all compassionate.
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  13. Nowadays, women and even men are becoming more conscious about their personal appearance; from their hair down to their toes. They always make sure they have the right hairstyle, wear the perfect outfit, have flawless skin and neat and healthy nails. This is true even to people outside of show business and fashion industries.

  14. the real woman depends with the eyes of beholder. what interest that individual has in first will determine whether that woman in question is real or not. different people will have different tastes

  15. I “real woman” is whatever he or she wants to be in this day and age. Yes, I said “he” because, as we know, women are no longer female in the United States. A man can be a woman and even join the military! In any case, I am a Las Vegas Concierge at vegasguyvip.com. I meet people from around the world daily. Many of my clients are women. Some of the women I meet are still trying to figure out what a real woman is. I just say, “a real woman” is whatever she wants to be!
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    • Sounds good Alex.
      You may have figured out I live in Las Vegas as well. I don’t get out to the clubs much. I am not their demographic. Spend most of my time at Vampd or shows. Was at Brooklyn Bowl night before last and HOB and Hard Rock cafe a couple nights before that.
      Take care and thank you for popping round here for a visit and comment.
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