I’m never gonna dance again the way I danced with you…

Have you heard that song Careless Whisper by Seether? It is really good. You can watch the official music video for it here

Anyway, I had a sit down meeting with my former boss a couple years ago and he asked me if I was doing a certain something he considered negative while at work. Busted. Yep, indeed I was doing what he was asking about and there was no way to get out of it and I am a terrible liar so I fessed up. The thing is though he did not have all the facts. I got him up to speed on it and everything became more or less cool. He said he heard it from a former co-worker. Which got me to thinking…

Imagine this made up but quite possible scenario:
I have no money in savings and rent, which takes up a good chunk of my paycheck, is coming due. For some unknown reason, a former co-worker who I considered a friend, tells the boss that I am doing something the boss may not like. Funny thing is the co-worker used to do it too…which I am sure he failed to mention. Anyway, now the boss is mad and fires me. Work is hard to find these days and I can’t make my rent and miss the payment. A month later and I still don’t have an income and I miss my second rent payment and I get evicted. So now me and my dog are staying at a friend’s house. I had to put a few things in storage as I already sold most of what I could so I could have money to eat and keep the utilities on. My friend is not gonna let me stay there forever so I have got to get a job and another apartment but since I have an eviction my new place is going to charge me a huge security deposit which I don’t have so I have to borrow from another couple of friends and get myself in more debt.

I think you get the point right?

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All this happened because someone did not remember what their mom…and Uncle Sam…said: “Loose lips sink ships.” and “If you don’t have anything nice to say keep your flippin’ mouth shut! Bite your lip!”
(Or was that just my mom?)

And like Seether so elegantly sang, “Time can never mend the careless whisper of a good friend.”

So what is the point of today’s post? What am I gonna challenge you to do? Well, I want you to practice to bite your lip a bit more. No not literally, I don’t have that much insurance to cover your doctor bills if you really do bite your lip. Just think before you speak. What you are about to say does it cause harm or do good? Will it chop someone down or raise them up? That is part 1. Part 2 is I want you to say something nice about or to five people everyday starting today. The catch is it can not be because you want something in return. Just an unsolicited compliment.

That should not be too hard right?

Now go forth and be and do good because you are good enough, you are smart enough, and, doggonit, people like you!

PS- I know Wham did it first. :)

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Lazy people need not apply

One of my big pet peeve is when on Facebook people do not read the previous comments and just post their own comment or ask their own question when it has already been answered had they taken the time to read the previous posts. It reminds me of when radio host Tom Leykis spent the whole week talking about how he was going to masticate live on the air on the upcoming Friday and all the people would call in during the week and say how obscene that was. They could not take the time to look up the word masticate and educate themselves. Which just goes to show how lazy and self-centered people are.

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Celebrities get to do cool stuff

After I heard the news of the death of Robin Williams, I heard that Koko the gorilla also heard about it and that she was sad as most of America was.

You remember Koko right? Hanabiko “Koko” is a female gorilla who, according to Francine “Penny” Patterson, her long-term trainer, is able to understand more than 1,000 signs based on American Sign Language, and understand approximately 2,000 words of spoken English.

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The Gorilla Foundation released a statement saying that “On Monday, Aug. 11, the day news broke of Williams’ passing, Koko and Penny and Ron (Drs. Patterson and Cohn) were together when phone calls started coming in about the sad event. After the first call, Koko came to Dr. Patterson with an inquiring look on her face. Dr. Patterson explained that “we have lost a dear friend, Robin Williams.” Koko was quiet and looked very thoughtful.” The statement also explained that in 2001, Robin Williams was invited to meet Koko at The Gorilla Foundation in northern California and that Robin Williams and Koko became very special friends.

Here is a video of their meeting:

(or you can watch the video here on YouTube.)

This got me to thinking… Celebrities get to do cool stuff us normal people do not get to do. Their status allows them this opportunity. Some of it is for security reasons. I remember hearing about Michael Jackson being escorted in the back entrence to ride Pirates of the Caribbean at Disneyland and I actually saw Alice Cooper escorted the back way into Calico Mine Train at Knott’s Berry Farm while the rest of us stood in line. There would be no way Michael Jackson, or Disnyland, would survive with him wandering around the park like I do.

Then there are stories like the one of Robin Williams meeting Koko. If I wanted to meet Koko? Yeah good luck with that right? Unless… I had a ton of cash. I know someone who recently threw the first pitch at the Las Vegas 51s baseball game. I asked him how he got that opportunity and he said it may have something to do with the large check they were donating.

Or if you are someone like Justin Bieber and have tons of cash you can have sex with the top hookers in Brazil. But in all fairness to Justin Bieber this article explains why Justin Bieber has no choice but to bang $500 per hour hookers.

There are countless stories of this kind of thing where celebrities get to do cool stuff us ‘normal-every-day-Joes’ are not able to.

I understand that when celebrities are photographed or stories are published about them doing cool stuff, it sells tickets or ad space ultimately as us normal folk want to read about their exploits as we wish to do the same. Like when Paris Hilton recently DJd at a popular club in Las Vegas a lot of people were talking. And that builds more attention. It seems she is going to be DJ at Hyde dance club at Bellagio in Las Vegas on New Years Eve this year which is over four months away as I write this and tickets are already no longer available. Gee, I wonder how much Bellagio is paying her?

I am sure Robin Williams was allowed to meet with Koko to bring attention to the preservation, protection and well-being of gorillas and other great apes through interspecies communication research and education. Still it was a cool thing to do I will never get the chance to. On the other hand I get to do a lot of things celebrities will never be able to like enjoy a quite meal or go shopping without being photographed or chased by the paparazzi.

Justin Bieber smuggled out of Brazilian brothel Centauros

So I guess it is an OK trade off.

Share your thoughts below in the comments. Would love to hear from you.

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I’m legacy decided at the crossroads starting to understand why so many people have children. Sure it may be upbringing and trying to live the American dream or doing what your parents did before you and just trying to follow in their footsteps. But for those of us who decided not to have children sometimes a certain whole is left in our lives. And I think that whole is something called Legacy. Children are a way to leave something to the earth after we are gone. But when you find yourself closer to 50 then you are 40 and having left nothing of significant value to this earth so far to this point it sort of leaves a huge hole in the heart.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote: “To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived – that is to have succeeded”

I feel I have so far failed. I need to create something.

Sexual double standards

I went to the club last night to see The Paul Charles Band and something got me to thinking. There are obvious sexual double standards in American society. Oh sure I live in Las Vegas and can only really speak for what I see here but since a very large and diverse population of Americans come to Las Vegas I get to see what must be a fair representation of what is also going on in Des Moines or Witchita. Perhaps these sexual double standards are happening throughout the entire world. It must be.

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What am I talking about? Perhaps you have seen it too? At the clubs and elsewhere I see girls of all ages openly touching and even groping each other the way lovers might. Ok, before you say that maybe they are lovers, it is often even groups of girls. You never see guys acting this way. You never see a guy walk up to his friend and two hand grab his friend’s butt. I understand that may be the case in gay clubs and what not but we are talking here about just anywhere. It could be at any club or party any place.

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One thing is for sure if I grabbed the ass of my friend Michael Johns or started grinding on him like I see these girls do, I believe the next thing I would expect is a broken nose and a broken friendship. This sort of behavior would only be acceptable with my gay male friends.

I just don’t know what it is or when this started. It seems like it is ok for two or more girls to carry on in these pseudo (?) lesbian escapades but as soon as two guys do it, it is somehow taboo or unacceptable. It is sexual double standards driving this behavior.

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Not sure how I feel about it. On one hand I couldn’t care less really. What ever someone or two or more people want to do to feel good and as long as it is not hurting anyone then I should be and am ok with it really. But what about equality? Why are these sexual double standards in place? It should be that guys are allowed to act like this too. Yet for some reason it is still not ok. Male on male affection is still seen by main stream society as taboo. I think everybody agrees that men and women are indeed different and yet every one must agree that there should somehow be equality. Yet with these sexual double standards I see at the dance clubs and various places, I still do not see the equality in inter-gender relations.

Maybe someone could clue me in in the comments below.