Breasts are my kryptonite

Brenna and I went to the M Casino and Resort the other night to watch some Chicago Bears football and the girls serving the food and drink at the 32* Draft Bar where all dressed in referee uniforms. Difference from the referees officiating the game being these where super low cut and accented with a push up bra.

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Photo courtesy of Hooters Facebook page

In the story of Superman, kryptonite, a mineral from the planet Krypton drains Superman of his strength. In modern culture kryptonite has become a reference to an individual’s perceived weakness, irrespective of its nature.

Breasts are my kryptonite.

Whenever I get in these situations like with the girls in the referee uniforms at the sports bar, I always turn into super polite guy and go to extra effort to make sure my eyes stay above the neckline. Brenna says it is cute how awkward I get. It is a weird thing too in that I am never sure if I am supposed to look or not. I mean they are just girls at work trying to make a buck but… they are dressed in such a way it is kind of hard not to notice right? I am sure when they dress like that their tips go up so they must do it on purpose.

The Dawn of the Breastaurant

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Photo courtesy of Twin Peaks Facebook page

According to Wikipedia a breastaurant is “a restaurant that has sexual undertones, most commonly in the form of large-breasted, skimpily-dressed waitresses and barmaids and double-entendre brand name.” The article goes on to say term ‘breastaurant’ dates from around the early ’90s, which is about the same time Hooters, which is generally considered the first breastaurant, started gaining its popularity. There are many restaurants with this style including Tilted Kilt, Twin Peaks, Bone Daddy’s, Bikinis Sports Bar & Grill, Blondies, Mugs & Jugs, Café Teaze and Heart Attack Grill. In October 2012, Bikinis Sports Bar & Grill successfully registered the term “breastaurant” as a trademark with the United States Patent and Trademark Office.

I always wonder about these girls that work at a place like this. Do they feel objectified? They must be there voluntarily so they are certainly not being exploited as it is their choice. If they do not like the uniform they can leave. Maybe they make better tips showing what they got as opposed to working at Applebee’s or IHOP or some other ‘family restaurant’. If only there was a way to know what these girls are thinking. Fortunately there is. I found a sort of interview with a girl who works at Twin Peaks which is a popular ‘breastaurant’. She went on Reddit and hosted a session of Ask Me Anything or AMA. On AMA the person hosting fields questions from folks online who are allowed to ask the host anything they like. Some of the answers were pretty interesting. You can read them here. I did not read the whole session, yet in my scanning of the Q&A session a few things caught my eye. She did say that her tips were higher there than most other places she could work. She also talked about her job responsibilities and what is required of her. It seems she is hired as an ‘entertainer’ and as such she can be required to meet certain physical appearance standards. Interesting.

So should I look or not?

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Photo courtesy of Twin Peaks Facebook page

I was working by myself at the bakery the other day and as such I got to interact with the customers who came in to pick up their cakes and treats we had made for them. I rarely get to do this as I am usually busy baking and we have a counter person for that. One particular girl came in wearing a sundress and nothing more. At one point she bent over to write something on a paper at counter level giving me a full and clear view of her breasts. Obviously this is not the appropriate time to look right? Of course I don’t know if she meant to do this but I can not be sure and so of course I go into Eagle Scout mode and quickly turn my head and subtly shift my position so as not to look. This is different than the girls at Tilted Kilted and the other breastaurant type establishments. Generally with girls in public if a guy looks he is called a pig. Not supposed to look. But the girls are showing so… Then there is the argument that they have a right to look sexy without being objectified. I just don’t know what to do.

It is a different environment at a breastaurant though. It seems to me the whole point of the breastaurant is the objectification of these women. Don’t get me wrong. I like boobs. Most of them at least. Natural. Enhanced. Big. Small. (especially small) It’s all good. I just feel weird when they are just right out there as the main focal point.

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I am interested in what people think. Are you supposed to enjoy the view with these girls? And I don’t just mean the ones who work at the breastaurant. What about the girl at the bar in the referee uniform? Or the cocktail waitress? I am interested in what you fellas and ladies think.

Share your thoughts in the comments. Would love to hear from you.

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In the heat of the moment…

I used to work in a very busy area of a public place in Las Vegas and I would see a ton of tourists six days a week. I love people watching and since The Man was paying me to do so I got to do it a lot.

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There is something I observed that bums me out though. Sometimes, quite often actually, I saw couples fighting. Usually they look drunk or at least a bit tipsy and in my city that is the norm for half the tourists. Anyway, these people are often very upset with each other. The pity is they are on vacation. I wonder how much they spent to spend this quality time together. Money saved, time off work (income lost), energy expended, resources consumed. And I get to thinking there is no going home where one can sleep on the couch. They are going back to a small hotel room. When the vacation is over they go back to their lives and back to work and the vacation that was supposed to be relaxing or at least fun is now a memory of that stressful time and perhaps they feel like they are already ready for another vacation. In a year they will probably not remember what the argument was about.

How do I know? Been there. Done that.

My companion and I had the opportunity to travel to the Middle East and had gotten in some argument about something most likely quite trivial though it must have been a big deal at the time. It was a bummer because my friend and I were at arms with each other despite the fact she had picked this location and I had spent a ton of cash to get us there and here she was asking me if she should just catch the next flight back home.

Years later I find myself seeing couples in what could well be the same situation and wonder if a dozen years later they will even remember what the argument was about.

So I challenge you to do this- Next time something is about to blow up into an argument ask yourself this- Is it really worth it? Is it better to be right or to be happy? Will you remember this in ten years or ten months or even next month?

Troy and Brenna at Disneyland Cinderella's Castle

Enjoy your times together.

20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships

I saw this list of 20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships and thought I would share it with you. I wish I could give credit to the author though I found it on two different websites each claiming a different author so sorry to the original.

Anyway, enjoy…

Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.

The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.

When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.

In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.

Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.

In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.

Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.

Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.

As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.

True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.

If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.

Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.

Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.

Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.

Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.

Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.

No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.

One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?


Here are the two websites I found this list from – and


Resumes are useless these days

Anne Anne hathaway brokeback mountain Hathaway lied to director Ang Lee to get the role on Brokeback Mountain. Her character needed to ride a horse and she could not but told Ang Lee she could. She got hired and on set it quickly became very obvious she had no idea what she was doing. At one point she fell off the horse. Her lie was exposed. Despite the fact she lied on her resume to get what became her break-out role, she went on to win an Oscar in 2013 for Les Misérables.

I went to an interview recently and handed my cover letter and resume package to the hiring manager and he tossed it aside saying he rarely even looks at resumes since so many people lie on it anyway these days. I do not. In fact my cover letter states “I will not waste your time with made up credentials and experience like other candidates will. My six years in the U.S. Army (Aviation Branch) taught me integrity and honor if nothing else.”

It is a sad days when you have to tell someone you are NOT lying to them since they assume everyone already is.

I’m never gonna dance again the way I danced with you…

Have you heard that song Careless Whisper by Seether? It is really good. You can watch the official music video for it here

Anyway, I had a sit down meeting with my former boss a couple years ago and he asked me if I was doing a certain something he considered negative while at work. Busted. Yep, indeed I was doing what he was asking about and there was no way to get out of it and I am a terrible liar so I fessed up. The thing is though he did not have all the facts. I got him up to speed on it and everything became more or less cool. He said he heard it from a former co-worker. Which got me to thinking…

Imagine this made up but quite possible scenario:
I have no money in savings and rent, which takes up a good chunk of my paycheck, is coming due. For some unknown reason, a former co-worker who I considered a friend, tells the boss that I am doing something the boss may not like. Funny thing is the co-worker used to do it too…which I am sure he failed to mention. Anyway, now the boss is mad and fires me. Work is hard to find these days and I can’t make my rent and miss the payment. A month later and I still don’t have an income and I miss my second rent payment and I get evicted. So now me and my dog are staying at a friend’s house. I had to put a few things in storage as I already sold most of what I could so I could have money to eat and keep the utilities on. My friend is not gonna let me stay there forever so I have got to get a job and another apartment but since I have an eviction my new place is going to charge me a huge security deposit which I don’t have so I have to borrow from another couple of friends and get myself in more debt.

I think you get the point right?

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All this happened because someone did not remember what their mom…and Uncle Sam…said: “Loose lips sink ships.” and “If you don’t have anything nice to say keep your flippin’ mouth shut! Bite your lip!”
(Or was that just my mom?)

And like Seether so elegantly sang, “Time can never mend the careless whisper of a good friend.”

So what is the point of today’s post? What am I gonna challenge you to do? Well, I want you to practice to bite your lip a bit more. No not literally, I don’t have that much insurance to cover your doctor bills if you really do bite your lip. Just think before you speak. What you are about to say does it cause harm or do good? Will it chop someone down or raise them up? That is part 1. Part 2 is I want you to say something nice about or to five people everyday starting today. The catch is it can not be because you want something in return. Just an unsolicited compliment.

That should not be too hard right?

Now go forth and be and do good because you are good enough, you are smart enough, and, doggonit, people like you!

PS- I know Wham did it first. :)

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